How do I increase my self-expression, when I want to give the compliment, but I am judging it? How do I get out of the vicious circle?
When we try to dance and judge the dance at the same time, we shall lose the excitement of dancing. We may even quit dancing.
Giving in relationships is the same. Giving compliments is a part of giving.
When I dance with all my passion, I am not busy judging it. When I acknowledge and give, I do it with all my passion.
You have trained yourself to criticise yourself – and lose excitement of life. Now start training yourself in the wanted direction. The only way is experiential learning. As we train in all my trainings. It is impossible to solve it by thinking about it.
Is this the right person for me and is it genuine love?
It is one of the biggest questions that we face while we are starting new loving relationship.
And the truth is simple and confronting.
When I was a child (11) and my beloved ‘girl-friend’, decided to ‘love’ another child, I was hurt and painful. When it happened again, just because another beloved girl had to go back to her country, I cried 3 days (I was not a crying kid). Since then I decided to ‘control my love. Actually to prevent the pain.
The truth is simple – we are scared to make mistakes in our choices. Thus we look for proofs that this is the right one. It does not exist. We create love and trust, when we dare to trust ourselves.
The percentages of separations and divorces worldwide are huge. All of them start from waiting for “it has to be right”. When we have children, we do not wait for the love to be right. WE make it working.
Those who wait for the genuine experience lose it. Those who create it – are free. It is challenging, because it shows that we are bigger than our fears and self-manipulations. We can and we should make our mind free from our fears that we cannot create our reality.
- Do you trust yourself that you can create the wanted relationship?
- Do you know how you want this relationship to develop?
- Are you willing to invest to make this desire happen?
- Are you going to create excitement in it?
You can train your mind to do it.