The surprise was confronting me without any warning. When we visited “universal-Studios”, a friend (“who wants friends like this?”) an official tour-guide of the studios, organized special tickets and sits for us for one of the shows. It was close to the stage. My friend places us in specific sits. I did not have a clue of what would happen. The place was full of more than 5000 people. It was a “live rock show”. In a specific moment the leader of the band pointed at a specific sit, where the person that was seated there was supposed to act completely ridiculous in-front of all the huge crowd, as a part of the show. Guess what – It was ME. NOW – I really had to choose fast: Hide like I felt like, or, let go of all my image and be ridiculous, involved and enjoy. (Later I found out that most people hide). I got completely spontaneous and crazy. Even the band were surprised. Later the band leader used me several times more, which they never do. When the show was over everyone in the crowd applaud to me including the band. I was proud, and my child and wife were shocked but proud too.
I found out that I used to do the same in many areas of my-life. Behave properly and get reasonable results and reasonable life. Since I crossed this “proper” attitude – all my life changed as a leader, as a parent, as a businessman, and as a trainer and professor.
Meeting many thousands of people in all areas of life, we limit our self-expression with many reasons, which all of them are just about “behaving – properly”. We can perform so much better and enjoy much greater successes, happiness and pride. Getting these people and businesses to cross their “proper” boundaries created outstanding results which short time earlier nobody would believe it was possible to achieve.
Most people seek these moments of inner power to express their uniqueness. All of them have the needed qualities, but they wait and wait and wait – properly.